ransvestia

first marriage). We are both artists; I am a concert musician. We both work together, and thusly are togeather a great deal. Un- fortunately, my wife, who has gradually found out about me, does not approve. Perhaps had I been candid with her from the begin- ning, the situation might be different. A bad thing happened one day, however. Up until that day, she had no idea the extent of my womanly desires. While cleaning out some drawers, she discovered a number of photographs I had taken of myself in various skirts and dresses. At the time the photos were taken, she was out of town for a month, so I had completely shaved my body, as I have always done when given the opportunity, and had let my hair grow quite long. Some of the pictures had me setting there with full make-up and my hair up in curlers. Others featured me in night gowns,evening dresses, skirts and blouses, etc. Naturally, this was a tremendous shock for her, and her first question was who took the photos? and was I involved with another man, etc. I was so upset that I almost “ran away." I was finally able to con- vince her that there was no one else involved, and that I was not gay, that transvestism in most cases involves heterosexual males, etc. We both agreed that I would make an appointment to talk with a psychiatrist . . . which I have still not done, for I realize fully now that there is no way to "cure" this thing I will have it for life.

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Nevertheless, I have made the conscious choice of not bur- dening my wife any further with what must be a very distressing thing for her. In addition, I do not want to have my daughter be- come aware of this, at least not until she is much older.

I do remain troubled however, for it seems that as the years go by (I am 41) my desire to be feminine intensifies. I do think about it constantly, and only at moments such as now, when I can steal away and put on a dress, do I feel relaxed. The thought though, of "altering" my sex physically disturbs me. Oddly enough, when I am a man, I enjoy it, and I enjoy making love to my wife.

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